A Discussion on Falling In and Out of Love.
Love is something that many people hope to experience in their lives. It has it’s ups and downs, but I believe love is something that should be cherished and memorable. Valentine’s Day is a bittersweet day for me. I am always happy on the day when I am around others, but if I am alone it can be a somewhat somber time. I began to ask myself how a simple holiday can change how we view our lives. I came to the conclusion that the concept of love outshines the holiday in our eyes, and we often imagine what it would be like to be deeply loved by someone on a day that celebrates love.
The media shapes a lot of our views on how we believe love should be through music, movies, and social media. However, I think nothing can replace the real thing. Whether the ending was good or bad, falling in love is a learning experience for all who encounter it. In lieu of the day of love and happiness, Aspiring model and singer Sid and I spoke about her views on love.
Written By: Khrystian McCalister
Photography by: Khrystian McCalister
KM: So we’re talking about the best and worst parts about falling in love. Have you ever had an experience that made you feel happy to be in love?
Sid: One very rainy and boring day, I got off of work and received a text from my boyfriend at the time telling me to get dressed. I was confused and asked what I should wear, and he just told me to wear something comfortable. In the car, I couldn’t help but wonder where we were going. When we finally pulled up at Fun ‘n’ Stuff, I was so happy; I am like a big kid when it comes to games. It was a great surprise.
KM: Do you feel as if your happiest moments with someone can determine the longevity of your relationship?
Sid: No. Anyone can make you laugh and smile, but the character of the person you are with is more important.
KM: There will always be drawbacks in relationship, because no one is perfect. What are some of your stipulations in a relationship?
Sid: Communication is very vital. If you can’t talk to me about how you feel, our relationship will fail. No one can read minds. Honesty, loyalty, and respect are also things I won’t sacrifice in a relationship. Like you said though, no one is perfect.
KM: How do you know when you must throw in the towel and end a relationship?
Sid: It depends on the situation. For instance, if you see a friend in a toxic relationship you wonder why they stay with that person, but unless you are actually in the relationship you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. When you are ready to be done with someone, you will let them go.
KM: You know how hard it is to walk away from someone that you are in love with. What goes on in your head when you feel like you need to move on?
Sid: I think of my happiness. When you’re tired of someone mistreating you, you become unhappy with yourself. If you want to go back to your normal self, you might have to cut some people off.
KM: How does your song, “I Can’t” relate to the struggles of falling in and out of love?
Sid: In the song, I was fed up. I didn’t want to deal with the same cycle of wrongdoing and forgiveness any longer. I just had to decide if I was going to choose me or him, and in the end, I chose me.
KM: What do you think are things that hold relationships together for long periods of time?
Sid: Friendship is one. You should be someone’s friend before you become their lover, because friendship is the foundation of your relationship. Your friends are people that you value in life, and sometimes friends can become so close they are like family. When you value your relationship with someone, you don’t want anyone or anything to break it up. If you have a strong bond, connection, and strong communication, the relationship should be solid.
KM: Why do you think that it’s difficult to be friends with an Ex?
Sid: I have an ex that I broke up with, because I wasn’t happy in our relationship. Today, we are still friends but only to a certain extent. I think that once you cross a certain line, those feelings will always be there if they are real. But if you really want to leave somebody alone, you just have to keep your distance. Going back into a cycle of unhappiness just doesn’t make sense.
KM: What is the best part about being in love?
Sid: The best part about being in love is being in love with your best friend. Knowing that you have that one person to be there for you on your bad days to comfort you is a good feeling.
Makeup by: Lauree Vang & Brittany White